Before we started this work I had no rhythm of life, I was at level: frazzled. I just didn’t have the mental fortitude to handle everything I wanted to live up to, and remain myself. I had something to prove, my shadowy self started to emerge and I couldn’t cover for it like I used to. I didn’t feel like the me I had been, and I didn’t yet feel like the me I wanted to be. I was sacrificing everything, for what? I was overcommitted and offering up too much of my soul to be defined by my work and the people in my life. To look at me, you probably wouldn’t have known. My region exceeded all of our expectations and benchmarks, I was achieving that high levels in most areas of my life. But when I would pray, and come back to my deepest sense of self, I found a shriveled and tired small version of her. I knew I wasn’t thriving, I didn’t have the understanding and the maturity to see that I was pushing too hard, and while I could measure my achievements, I couldn’t measure my level of exertion.
When we started coaching I started to feel like me again, but a version of me that I could be all day long, and I wasn’t honoring myself I was so tired I couldn’t relax, listen, discern, or have the integrity to all boundaries around my energy and my own growth, now for weeks at a time. I felt like I had less prove, less to cover for. I slowed down to choose my commitments differently, to know why, to see how. I started to grow the mental stamina to see more perspectives. In this coaching work, my picture has gotten so much bigger, I realize that everything has at least opposite side, if not three-dimensional aspect to it. I went from a flat paper map, to a landscape in relief.
I used to depend on being right or being in charge in order to have influence, to lead and get things done. I don’t depend on rightness or my place anymore. I come from a place of strength now, knowing my boundaries, knowing what I can commit to whole heartedly. I can lead from a place of strength, knowing that I don’t need to prevent against what others will do, doubting myself, stepping away from my own sense of knowing the best way for us.
When I started to lead this way, it really let my team spread their wings, I’m delegating better and we’re all getting more done because I know better who I am as the leader. We’re still achieving but we’re losing less of ourselves while we’re doing it.
I’m still leading, but I am remaining more of myself while I’m doing it. My work with you has shown me that I don’t have to choose between being a leader and being myself.
Dr. Miller is the person I trust to show me my edges. She has continually helped me cross over into a bigger, better me to lead a bigger, better organization.
Cara has both critical answers and questions that help me construct a new thought pattern, which leads to a new behavioral pattern and ultimately to new results. I would compare working with Cara like light through a prism. After light moves through the prism, the visible components become much more clear, tangible, and colorful. And when I come to you with an issue, it comes out at a different angle and looks noticeably different. I perceive it in a way I couldn’t have before. You expand the scope of visible approaches to a given situation.
The biggest perspective I gained was that I was answering the wrong questions. I constantly tell myself I can’t do something. Cara challenged me to take down any fronts and really think about what it is that was holding me back. She kept digging and digging until we came upon the biggest door we had to kick down.
You could be right on the edge of a breakthrough. There’s one more door to kick down, Cara is ready to kick it down with you. Friends and family may hold back because they love you and they want to make it seem like they support you. As a coach, Cara will challenge you, she will keep digging until you both get the right answer as to what direction your life should be heading in.
Working with Cara took me to a whole different dimension in my leadership development. Cara helped me uncover things I never understood and unleash my potential as a leader. The thoughtfulness and thoroughness to her approach is what every leader needs in their life… someone who can ask excellent questions, hold space for them and gently help them discover things that will propel them onward.
Working with Cara was one of the most valuable hours I’ve ever had! You walk out feeling empowered, knowing what you can realistically action to step yourself closer to your goals.
In coaching, I slowed down to choose my commitments differently, to know why, to see how. I started to grow the mental stamina to see more perspectives.
When we started coaching I started to feel like me again – a version of me that I could stay all day long.
Dr. Miller was more interactive and curious than any presenter I’ve ever heard. She literally involved me in constructing what happened, while leading the whole thing. I believed I was actually part of building the experience during it, and it turned out to be completely authentic. I can’t figure how she did it, but she’s ruined every other presenter for me now.
In this work, my picture has gotten so much bigger, I realize that everything has at least an opposite side, if not a three-dimensional aspect to it. I went from a flat paper map, to a landscape in relief.
This will go down in history as one of the most influential moments of my life…feeling empowered, knowing what I can realistically action to step myself closer to my goals.
That Cara can hold the entire system I’m working within and also hold the specifics of my internal situation seems unlike any other way I’ve seen of growing a leader. Astoundingly, the whole system can see the benefit.
We’re still achieving but we’re losing less of ourselves while we’re doing it. I’m still leading, but I am remaining more of myself while I’m doing it.
When I started to work and lead this different way, it really let my team spread their wings, I’m delegating better and we’re all getting more done because I know better who I am as the leader.
If I’m experiencing a major hold back, it is me that is holding up the process, it doesn’t need to be seen in a bad way. Accept it and find solutions to move forward.
Your teaching changes the way I see myself and everyone I impact. It informs the way I walk into all my situations. It flips up all the ways I’ve always thought about what I do. And inquires as to what’s underneath it all.
This work has shown me that I don’t have to choose between being a leader and being myself.
You could be right on the edge of a breakthrough. There’s one more door to kick down, Cara is ready to kick it down with you.